Q: Is it permissible for a woman to say to a (Muslim) man “Indeed, I love you for the Sake of Allaah”?
A: No, she mustn’t open this door!
Her love is in her heart, (and) she loves every believing man and woman, and every Muslim man and woman.
However, she mustn’t open this door for someone specific, because he would be tempted and would continue to speak to her and exchange statements of love (for the Sake of Allaah) and that which is similar to it, and thereby they would fall into that which is prohibited, (so) no.
Shaykh Zayd Muhammad al-Madkhalee
- Translator: Mohammed Akhtar Chaudhry, Abu Abdullaah | Source: Madeenah.com
fall into what is prohibited?? hmm *raises eyebrows* this is a very general answer.. so a woman can not tell her husband she loves him for the sake of Allah (swt) her brother? her father? her uncle?
Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatu Ammena,
This Q&A actually applies to non-mahram males, that is, a woman telling him that she loves him for the sake of Allah, and also, a male telling a non-mahram woman that he loves her for the sake of Allah.
Sorry for any confusion ukhtee, I can see how the generality of the ‘Muslim man’ might’ve caused you to think that way.
But, alhamdulillah, we can of course say we love them [fathers, brothers, husbands etc] in the general sense, and too, that we love them for the sake of Allah.
Wa Salamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatu
Asalaamoalaikum,
Thank you for outlining the etiquette between non mahram men and women.
Jazaaik allah hu khairan.
Wa Alaikum Assalam Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatu
Wa iyaak!
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Wa Alaikum Assalam Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatu; inshaAllah.
Assalamu Alaikum,
Okay fine, great- but I do believe in LOVE, for the sake of Allah (swt).
Wa Alaikum Assalam Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatu
Yes, maashaAllah, love for the sake of Allah is encouraged, and it is a beautiful thing.
The Messenger of Allah salAllahu alayhi wa sallam said:
“There are three characteristics whoever has them will find the sweetness of faith: that Allah and His Messenger are more beloved to him than all else;that he loves a person and does not love him except for Allah; and that he would hate to revert to unbelief just as he would hate to be thrown into the fire.” (Al Bukhari)
So it is indeed something we should aspire to. This post simply makes a guideline for its utterance, that is, we shouldn’t express it to non-mahram males verbally (even while she might indeed love him for the sake of Allah, it’s safer for her to keep this in her heart and not utter it to him directly).
As for others, a fellow sister perhaps, then we should inshaAllah tell them that we love them for the sake of Allah. For Rasulullaah salAllahu alayhi wa sallaam has said:
“If one of you loves his brother then let him tell
that he loves him.” (Al Bukhari)
“If one of you loves his brother for Allah’s sake, then let him tell him since it causes familiarity to endure and firmly establishes love.” (Al Bukhari)
(The ahadeeth above were extracted from the book Love and Hate for the Sake of Allah by Shaykh Saleem Al Hilaalee)
And Allah knows best.
Wa Salamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatu
Yea, I agree with the comment by “tawheedfirst” above.
is it wrong/unislamic to wait for someone you love in marriage??
Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullaahi Wa Barakatu
If I’ve understood the question correctly, it is: is it haraam to wait to marry the one you love?
InshaAllaah if that is the question, then the general answer is no, it is not. It is permissible to wait to marry the one whom you love. InshaAllah, the one who wishes to marry the potential spouse (or the one whom they love) does so pursuing the halaal means. And if it is written for the individual and Allaah wills it, then the union will come about.
However, if it the matter cannot be resolved, and difficulties come about, such that the marriage cannot take place; then inshaAllaah the individual retains their sabr and tawakul. Perhaps Allah ta’ala shall replace his loss with that which is better. And we ask Allaah ‘azza wa jall to make it easy. Allahumma Ameen.
And surely Allaah ta’ala knows best.
Wa Salamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullaahi Wa Barakatu
Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullaah,
Is it permissible to say “I love you for the sake of Allah” to your Husband?
In addition, If one is not married yet, is it permissible to love a man/woman for the sake of Allah?
Wa Alaikum Assalam Wa Rahmatullaahi Wa Barakatu
Yes, it is permissible for a wife to say that she loves her husband for Allaah’s sake (as it is permissible for her to do so with her father or her brother). This Q&A outlines the proper etiquette between non-mahrams and outlines that it would not be appropriate for a female to utter this phrase to a non-mahram male. Likewise it would be inappropriate for a male to utter the phrase to a non-mahram female due to the possible fitnah that may result from it.
If one is not yet married, it is indeed permissible to love a man/woman for Allaah’s sake. In fact, this would remain the default as the Shaykh says:
“Her love is in her heart, (and) she loves every believing man and woman, and every Muslim man and woman.”
It is the love for the sake of Allaah that springs in one’s heart due to the commonality of faith. However, while a sister may love a (non-mahram) brother for Allaah’s sake and a brother may love a (non-mahram) sister for the sake of Allaah, this is something that should simply remain in the heart, for it is not appropriate to utter this to them (as the Q&A suggests).
InshaAllaah, I hope this explanation is clear. The past responses given in the comments to this post may also shed more light on this matter.
Wallaahu a’lam.
Bismillah, do you tell your parents you love of them or should one say dear mum i love you for the sake of Allah swt?
One can express both feelings to their parents (both natural love and love for Allaah’s sake). Expressing natural love is sufficient, and loving them for Allaah’s sake is a degree above that (as we are rewarded for it).
Wa Allaahu a’lam.