Q: Is it permissible for a woman to say to a (Muslim) man “Indeed, I love you for the Sake of Allaah”?
A: No, she mustn’t open this door!
Her love is in her heart, (and) she loves every believing man and woman, and every Muslim man and woman.
However, she mustn’t open this door for someone specific, because he would be tempted and would continue to speak to her and exchange statements of love (for the Sake of Allaah) and that which is similar to it, and thereby they would fall into that which is prohibited, (so) no.
Shaykh Zayd Muhammad al-Madkhalee
- Translator: Mohammed Akhtar Chaudhry, Abu Abdullaah | Source: Madeenah.com
fall into what is prohibited?? hmm *raises eyebrows* this is a very general answer.. so a woman can not tell her husband she loves him for the sake of Allah (swt) her brother? her father? her uncle?
Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatu Ammena,
This Q&A actually applies to non-mahram males, that is, a woman telling him that she loves him for the sake of Allah, and also, a male telling a non-mahram woman that he loves her for the sake of Allah.
Sorry for any confusion ukhtee, I can see how the generality of the ‘Muslim man’ might’ve caused you to think that way.
But, alhamdulillah, we can of course say we love them [fathers, brothers, husbands etc] in the general sense, and too, that we love them for the sake of Allah.
Wa Salamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatu
Asalaamoalaikum,
Thank you for outlining the etiquette between non mahram men and women.
Jazaaik allah hu khairan.
Wa Alaikum Assalam Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatu
Wa iyaak!
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Wa Alaikum Assalam Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatu; inshaAllah.
Assalamu Alaikum,
Okay fine, great- but I do believe in LOVE, for the sake of Allah (swt).
Wa Alaikum Assalam Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatu
Yes, maashaAllah, love for the sake of Allah is encouraged, and it is a beautiful thing.
The Messenger of Allah salAllahu alayhi wa sallam said:
“There are three characteristics whoever has them will find the sweetness of faith: that Allah and His Messenger are more beloved to him than all else;that he loves a person and does not love him except for Allah; and that he would hate to revert to unbelief just as he would hate to be thrown into the fire.” (Al Bukhari)
So it is indeed something we should aspire to. This post simply makes a guideline for its utterance, that is, we shouldn’t express it to non-mahram males verbally (even while she might indeed love him for the sake of Allah, it’s safer for her to keep this in her heart and not utter it to him directly).
As for others, a fellow sister perhaps, then we should inshaAllah tell them that we love them for the sake of Allah. For Rasulullaah salAllahu alayhi wa sallaam has said:
“If one of you loves his brother then let him tell
that he loves him.” (Al Bukhari)
“If one of you loves his brother for Allah’s sake, then let him tell him since it causes familiarity to endure and firmly establishes love.” (Al Bukhari)
(The ahadeeth above were extracted from the book Love and Hate for the Sake of Allah by Shaykh Saleem Al Hilaalee)
And Allah knows best.
Wa Salamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatu
Yea, I agree with the comment by “tawheedfirst” above.
is it wrong/unislamic to wait for someone you love in marriage??
Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullaahi Wa Barakatu
If I’ve understood the question correctly, it is: is it haraam to wait to marry the one you love?
InshaAllaah if that is the question, then the general answer is no, it is not. It is permissible to wait to marry the one whom you love. InshaAllah, the one who wishes to marry the potential spouse (or the one whom they love) does so pursuing the halaal means. And if it is written for the individual and Allaah wills it, then the union will come about.
However, if it the matter cannot be resolved, and difficulties come about, such that the marriage cannot take place; then inshaAllaah the individual retains their sabr and tawakul. Perhaps Allah ta’ala shall replace his loss with that which is better. And we ask Allaah ‘azza wa jall to make it easy. Allahumma Ameen.
And surely Allaah ta’ala knows best.
Wa Salamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullaahi Wa Barakatu
Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullaah,
Is it permissible to say “I love you for the sake of Allah” to your Husband?
In addition, If one is not married yet, is it permissible to love a man/woman for the sake of Allah?
Wa Alaikum Assalam Wa Rahmatullaahi Wa Barakatu
Yes, it is permissible for a wife to say that she loves her husband for Allaah’s sake (as it is permissible for her to do so with her father or her brother). This Q&A outlines the proper etiquette between non-mahrams and outlines that it would not be appropriate for a female to utter this phrase to a non-mahram male. Likewise it would be inappropriate for a male to utter the phrase to a non-mahram female due to the possible fitnah that may result from it.
If one is not yet married, it is indeed permissible to love a man/woman for Allaah’s sake. In fact, this would remain the default as the Shaykh says:
“Her love is in her heart, (and) she loves every believing man and woman, and every Muslim man and woman.”
It is the love for the sake of Allaah that springs in one’s heart due to the commonality of faith. However, while a sister may love a (non-mahram) brother for Allaah’s sake and a brother may love a (non-mahram) sister for the sake of Allaah, this is something that should simply remain in the heart, for it is not appropriate to utter this to them (as the Q&A suggests).
InshaAllaah, I hope this explanation is clear. The past responses given in the comments to this post may also shed more light on this matter.
Wallaahu a’lam.
Bismillah, do you tell your parents you love of them or should one say dear mum i love you for the sake of Allah swt?
One can express both feelings to their parents (both natural love and love for Allaah’s sake). Expressing natural love is sufficient, and loving them for Allaah’s sake is a degree above that (as we are rewarded for it).
Wa Allaahu a’lam.
I am totally agreed with your point but there is possibility of expressing love to your partner before marriage, but intention should be only marriage and you should never meet him/her alone and should never do anything that can lead you to do haram (forbidden), see below authentic proof:
1. Love before Marriage for the sake of Allah only:
If a man feels some attraction towards a woman whom it is permissible for him to marry her, and vice versa, there is no answer to the problem except marriage. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “We do not think that there is anything better for those who love one another than marriage.” (Narrated by Ibn Maajah, 1847; classed as saheeh by al-Busayri and by Shaykh al-Albaani in al-Silsilah al-Saheehah, 624)
Al-Sindi said, as noted in Haamish Sunan Ibn Maajah:
The phrase “We do not think that there is anything better for those who love one another than marriage” may be understood to refer to two or to more than two. What this means is that if there is love between two people, that love cannot be increased or made to last longer by anything like marriage. If there is marriage as well as that love, that love will increase and grow stronger every day.”
2. Muslim Woman Propose to a Muslim Man.
There is nothing wrong as far as Islam is concerned if a Muslim woman proposes to a Muslim man. It is reported that Khadijah, the mother of the believers (may Allah be pleased with her), proposed to the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him).
In this context, we’d like to cite the following Fatwa issued by the eminent Muslim scholar, Dr. `Ali Jum`ah, Professor of the Principles of Islamic Jurisprudence at Al-Azhar Univ., states:
“There is nothing in the Shari`ah to prevent a Muslim woman from proposing to a righteous Muslim man. However, a Muslim woman should be careful not to be deceived by the appearance of a certain person and wrongly judge him as a righteous man.”
Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullaahi Wa Barakatu,
While these ahadeeth and statements that you bring mention love and proposals for marriage, this does not necessarily mean they are referring to verbal expressions of love (which the post above is referring to). Love is, by its nature, a hidden feeling which remains in one’s heart unless one decides to outwardly display it or verbally express it. Thus the love mentioned in the hadeeth can simply refer to the love that two people have in their hearts for one another.
I want to clarify that the post above is not negating the love that someone has in their heart for another, but it’s placing guidelines on verbalizing that love.
It is unnecessary (and perhaps dangerous) to verbally express one’s love to a potential spouse. If the marriage does not take place, then these words could linger in the brother/sister’s heads and they can be affected by the situation to a greater extent than if these words were not uttered.
Once they are Islamically wed however, inshaAllaah the verbal expressions of love may take place then.
And Allaah knows best.
Wa Salamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatu
Hello, I have a question;
Another woman texted my husband a picture of a PINK heart that said, “I LOVE YOU FOR THE SAKE OF ALLAH.”
Should I be worried? I am non-muslim but my husband and I love each other and have been married for over a year and have a four-month old son. Any advice for me please.
P.S. The text message came from a woman by the name of Zaahirah, I assume she’s Arab muslim like my husband.I should note that I am African American and met my husband over 7 years ago.
Hello Nicole,
As Islam encourages us to give people the benefit of the doubt and make excuses for them as long as one is able to, one may suppose that perhaps the sister accidentally text messaged your husband while in fact the text was intended for another.
Based on this premise, inshaAllah (God-willing) your husband may text the sister back with something to the effect of:
Assalamu Alaikum sister, I think you accidentally sent that last text message to me. I just wanted to let you know as you may want to send it to who it was intended for.
This achieves a few things:
- It sends the subtle message that such messages aren’t welcomed.
- In the case that is was sent mistakenly, it informs the sister that the message did not reach her intended party.
A few other considerations:
- It may be that the sister forwarded the message to all in her address book. The message (as you describe it, with the animation) sounds like a forwarded message that the sister herself received and she continued to pass it on to a number of people.
- Another consideration is the following: it must be noted that (as the post states): “she loves every believing man and woman, and every Muslim man and woman.” The concept of ‘love for the sake of Allaah’ is an overarching love that we share for all of our brothers and sisters in faith, and this it is not akin to the general ‘love’ that Non-Muslims are familiar with. That is, we should not equate the message that your husband received to a woman saying “I love you.” Instead, stating “I love you for the sake of Allaah” is a phrase that is oft shared between those in the Islamic faith – and sometimes even between brothers and sisters who do so with good intentions, not realizing that it is more appropriate not to express this sentiment between genders (as has been clarified in the comments above).
I hope these considerations and suggestions have helped in some way inshaAllaah (God-willing). If you have any other comments or questions, please feel free to share.
And Allah knows best.
i was going to say i love you for the sake of Allaah, to the author of this blog.