Honesty – a prized and most commendable trait. Yet this very trait seems to leave us in the times we need it most. When we are faced with fitaan, it seems our morality is oft times thrown out the window. Instead our hawaa [desires] take over, as we delude ourselves into lessening the haraam act with the excuses, in order to appease our conscience. And this is done time and time again.
In many situations the haraam will not come except that it is accompanied by justifications, reasons, and excuses. For how could one with emaan ever feel secure and sound in falling into that which is prohibited? And let this feeling of guilt and the quick formulation of excuses be a sign, a warning of sorts, inciting ourselves to check our intentions and our actions – will this please Allah ‘azza wa jaal, or rather is it simply hawaa that may earn Allah’s anger? For indeed we fear a punishment, most great.
SubhaanAllah, when will we own up to our actions? When will we look in the mirror and realize our faults? For how does one change if they are blind to the reality, continuously making excuses for themselves? And wallahu ‘alam, it is these excuses that will prove most destructive. For perhaps the Muslim was once at a state where they committed the haraam, and while their desires took the best of them, that voice of reason was relentless, allowing them to feel guilt lowering their head, for the shame they felt. Yet with the consistent excuses, this voice – once strong – became smaller and smaller, and the whispers of Shaytaan began to take effect, such that the voice became nonexistent and the guilt slowly disappeared as the many excuses made the haraam more and more acceptable. While indeed that head, once lowered in shame, begins to rise higher and higher to a point where they feel no shame and now have no problem exposing their sins openly, for all to see.
Ibn Mas’ood (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: “The believer regards his sin as if he were sitting beneath a mountain which he fears may fall on him, whereas the sinner regards his sin as if a fly lands on his nose and he swipes it away.”
Tread carefully, lest you become the latter – one whose sins become insignificant such that one thinks them so small, so unrecognizable and ultimately, acceptable.